In recent years, many of us have appealed to the ideas of positive psychology. Since “The Secret” appeared in 2006, many ideas for self-improvement have become widely known.
One of them is affirmations, which are statements that state that something is true and develop a positive attitude towards yourself. A lot of positive psychologies and coaching tips suggest practicing them regularly and many really do.
But some of you may be faced with a situation where affirmations just don’t work. Why? Here I want to present a few reasons:
1. You secretly resist the new idea:
When you’ve been short of money for years, and now you’re trying to convince yourself that you’re bound to be rich, it’s no surprise that your subconscious doesn’t believe.
What to do: don’t set your goals too high. Be realistic and move slowly. If you believe and reach your goal, you will eventually do, but it takes time.
2. You don’t put any feeling into your affirmations:
Affirmations are not a speech speed test! Slow down, say it once or twice a day, but feel the emotion that it’s already yours.
Remember, our subconscious mind doesn’t care what you say, it’s all about emotions.
3. You think of them as daily grinds:
Affirmations should bring you joy, so work with them when you are relaxed and in a good mood. The less serious your approach, the more results it will bring.
Recommended: 5 Morning Affirmations to Start Your Day Off Right
4. You don’t make any effort to it, other than saying your affirmations:
It’s pretty stupid to think that saying several words a day will change your life right away. Words don’t change our lives. Actions do.
So, in addition to the stated intention to have something, take steps towards your goal. How do you think, where, for example, Adele would be now if she only sat down saying something like “I’m a talented singer”?
5. You don’t say them regularly:
Even though I said that affirmations should not be considered a mandatory thing to do, they should be said regularly. We become what we regularly think about.
If the goal is really yours, it thinking about it every day can’t be looked at as obligatory. If you have to punish yourself, then maybe it’s time to think about what you really want deep in your soul?
6. One last method:
Try the following: go in front of the mirror and say, “I’m wonderful.” After that, ask the question: “Why am I so wonderful?”. Do you feel the difference? In the second case, your mind begins to seek the answer and focuses your attention on your goal.
Affirmations can be a powerful tool if used correctly. Of course, the words themselves are not enough, but when you are determined and focused, your stated goal gets closer day by day.