When you become the best friend of yourself, everything becomes easier.
Life is not always just rainbows and butterflies, we know it well. It can be very difficult sometimes.
And in the hardest times, often the only person you can really rely on is yourself.
In these circumstances, you need to express the best that is in you and to succeed you must be able to find yourself in balance, in perfect harmony with your self, with your values and your goals.
Promise yourself not to give up in the face of obstacles, to fight, to laugh harder and longer and to face openly the adversities that will arise along your path.
Make these promises to yourself, and always keep them.
1. “I promise not to use the past against myself.”
Your problems, your weaknesses, your setbacks, regrets, and mistakes may be your best teachers if you are willing to learn. Do not worry, let them light your way with the lessons they give you every day. Take it all as a learning opportunity.
If you regret some of the decisions you made in the past, do not be hard on yourself.
At that time you did your best by making the decision you thought was most appropriate based on the knowledge you had. If today perhaps you would make a different choice is because in the meantime you have changed, your knowledge and the world around you.
Time and experience are a wonderful way to help us grow and learn to make better choices for ourselves and those we love.
2. “I promise to take full responsibility for my life.”
Maybe from the people that gravitate around you, you’re used to feeling that if things do not go for the best it’s the fault of parents, teachers, government, society and so on, but the fault is never of ourselves, right?
Things, in my opinion, are not properly this way.
You are not satisfied with the turn that your existence has taken, the responsibility is only yours.
Because if you really want to change, if you really want to do something different, you’re the only person who can make it happen.
The move to take is in your hands, it is your responsibility and nobody else’s.
3. “I promise to speak to myself in a kind and encouraging way.”
Wait a minute: what did you just say to yourself? Were these words of encouragement like you would do with a friend?
Or were they scornful remarks or sharp judgments that you would not even reserve for your worst enemy?
Every day each of us in an extremely silent way speaks to himself.
And a part of us blindly believes in every single word of what we tell ourselves.
So pay attention and always ask: “If I had a friend who always spoke to me in the same way that I speak to myself at this moment, how long would I allow this person to be my friend?”
4. “I promise to hear what my heart and my instincts communicate to me.”
When something seems right to you, in all probability it means that it is something right for you.
And if you feel that something is wrong you subconsciously know that it’s probably something that’s not right for you.
Pay attention to your most authentic feelings, and follow where they lead you. When you follow your inner voice, even those who previously used to be walls become doors ready to be opened.
5. “I promise to live the life that I feel is right for me, not the life that seems to be right for others.”
Give yourself permission to follow the path that makes you happy.
And realize that some people in your life will disassociate themselves from some of your choices; they simply will not approve, but this too is OK.
Sometimes, when you commit yourself to create your happiness, you end up clashing with the perceptions of others.
Sometimes, when you make something big, you have to let something else go.
And sometimes this ‘ something ‘ is a relationship that just wants you to do what others want, not what you want.
6. “I promise not to fuel relationships that compromise my well-being.”
Most people enter your life for even a short period of time just to teach you something. They come and go and make the difference. And it’s okay they’re not in your life anymore.
Not all relationships are lasting, but the lessons you can draw from these relationships can take them with you for a lifetime.
If you learn to open your heart and mind, anyone, including people who will no longer be in your life, can teach you something useful.
7. “I promise not to allow any situation to permanently take away my smile.”
Even when times are tough, take a break and remember who you are. Take a moment to reflect on things that have a real and lasting meaning in your life.
Focus on what makes your life more enjoyable and meaningful, on what you’ve conquered and defended with your teeth. Nothing in this world is more beautiful and powerful than a smile that has struggled through tears.
Anyone can be happy when times are easy. It takes a strong awareness and a steady inner harmony to smile in situations where there would be crying.
No matter how long it takes, it will get better . Go ahead. Difficult situations will eventually make you stronger.
8. “I promise to appreciate and celebrate my life.”
Too many people overestimate what they are not and underestimate what they are. Do not be one of them. Get a breath of fresh air. The past is behind you.
Focus on what you can do today, not on what you could or should have done yesterday. Remember, for all you’ve lost, you’ve earned something else.
Appreciate what you have and who you are today. Life does not have to be perfect to be wonderful. Count your blessings, not your problems.
It costs nothing to be positive and changes things for the better. Your thoughts are under your control, so make good use of them to give your actions and your life a powerful advantage.
9. “I promise to use my skills to make the difference.”
The most common way people give away their power is to think that they have none. Do not do this.
The world needs you. In a world full of doubts, the courage to dream is necessary.
In a world full of rage, the courage to forgive is needed. In a world full of hate, the courage to love is necessary.
In a world full of distrust, the courage to believe is necessary. And once you do, you will realize you have the power you once thought you missed.
10. “I promise to dedicate myself to my personal growth.”
All that is worth doing is worth doing well. And excellence is never a coincidence.
It is the result of high focus, concentrated effort, intelligent direction, skillful execution, and the vision of seeing obstacles as opportunities.
It is also important to note that excellence cannot be judged in absolute terms, on the basis of the goals achieved or missed, but it must be evaluated by measuring the distance traveled from the point where you started.
Everything is about being diligent and making progress – whether it is a step forward or a lesson learned, day after day.
11. “I promise to embrace the changes that I know are necessary for me.”
Life is a game of balance between standing still and letting go – between staying still and moving forward.
We strive to make the right choices, but how do we know when it is really time to give a different direction to our lives? The signs are not always easy to decipher, but they are there and you know it.
Relationships, work, and even the cities we live in have an expiration date. Sometimes we cling to what does not work out of fear that we will not be able to adapt to the changes that are needed.
And so the result is always the same: more pain, frustration, and constant regrets. Try to be smarter than this. Embrace the changes you know you need to do.