While we all would like to think that we are strong enough to resist manipulative people, it is much easier for people to use you than you think. Well, until it actually happens to you.
And it is not easy to overcome envy when it is for someone you love. However, for some of us, it’s hard to resist their charm, or we can love them and try to please them because we think we have to do whatever it takes to make them happy.
So how do you break the cycle? It’s easier than it seems.
1. The reason why you are letting them:
What is the reason why you let them use you? Is it because you haven’t realized it recently, or is it because you are generally manipulated?
You need to understand why you are doing what you are doing and for whom you are doing it.
2. Define what being used means:
When does it transit from you helping them, to them using you and what does “use” mean to you?
3. Rely on your intuition:
If your gut tells you that you are being used and that you have negative emotions in the back of your mind, go for it. Trust yourself and trust your intuition.
4. Watch for patterns:
Don’t believe what someone says, believe what people do. Actions speak much louder than words.
5. Keep in mind that apologizing doesn’t mean they will stop doing it:
Just because someone says they are sorry doesn’t mean they really are. Words are easy to pronounce, but for some people, they are much more difficult to follow.
6. Appreciate your worth:
Remember, you don’t have to gain people’s love and attention. If you allow someone to use you because you are trying to maintain their love, keep that in mind.
7. Watch for red flags:
Does this person only come when they need something? Do they use their needs as an excuse when they use you?
They tell you they will reimburse you, but they never do. They used other people. They are also misleading. If you notice these red flags, it’s time to shut them down.
Recommended: 7 Signs that You Are in the Hands of a Manipulator.