We are all addicted. Maybe not a substance, but a feeling. We are all looking for safety and comfort. We cannot stand it when we are not in control. But no matter how much you feel in control, no matter how safe you think you are, it is all an illusion. Life is supposed to be a mystery.
We do our best to know things, to plan things, to predict them, to get that feeling of control and security. But there are many things that we cannot control. There are things we cannot control, yes, but there is something we can always control, our own choices, our responses, our free will.
Sometimes things don’t go as planned, take you to strange lands, but maybe you will meet someone there that you never imagined could exist. Maybe there is no better plan than allowing life to be itself:
1. Best things are actually outside of our comfort zone:
When we make a plan, we are actually creating the boundaries of our comfort zone. We know this is going to happen and it gives us a feeling of familiarity and security.
But that sense is an illusion, the world is uncertain and the best things are out there in the unknown.
2. We aren’t responsible for what happens:
No human can control everything. The waves and their shape are not your responsibility. Your responsibility is to know how you react to events, how you respond.
When you face uncertainty, it will teach you that your true freedom lies in the way you react.
3. We don’t always know what we need:
We make plans thinking that we know what is best for us. But you are no wiser than life. Maybe what you really need is something unexpected.
You might think that you have to be alone to heal, but maybe you meet someone who suits you so well, it heals your heart.
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4. Our plans aren’t that good:
We think we can make the best plan for us. But we ignore the fact that we know so little about life.
We do not know most of the variables and we plan on the basis of information, not experience. We are amateurs when it comes to making plans.
5. Planning lacks magic:
To be truly alive means to allow life to be fully realized, to embrace all possibilities. To let yourself be surprised by life, show yourself what you don’t know.
6. We grow when we encounter the unknown:
When something goes wrong with our plan, or when we don’t have a plan, we find ourselves in the unknown. We have no control over it.
But outside of our comfort zone, this is where we grow up, we unlock parts of us that would have remained dormant.
7. Our perception is very limited:
We forget that our perception is very limited. We can only perceive a tiny fragment of reality because of our senses, and even this part is filtered through our psyche and our emotions.
So maybe our plan is not so good, it is limited in knowledge and emotions.
8. There’s always a better plan:
Whatever type of plan we make, there is always a better plan because there is always something changing. Trying to make a perfect plan is a crazy race.
The best plans are generally made at the moment, they are flexible, in line with changes.
9. Life’s real beauty can’t be planned:
There is no plan as beautiful as life showing you that there is a greater purpose. A bigger entanglement of things.
When things appear at the right time and in the right place, and it’s as if someone has written a story in which you participated. It’s better than any plan.