“Hope for love, pray for love, seek love, dream of love… but do not put your life on hold while waiting for love.”
~ Mandy Hale
There have always been songs, poems, movies, books and stories about love because that has always been our driving force.
Love moves the world forward for most of us, and that’s exactly what it needs to do. Love makes us all better, kinder and gives us hope.
Relationships push us to become the best person possible. With all of that in mind, it’s obviously sad to see marriages and couples break up, and we’ll try to explain why this is happening.
Objectively, there are 5 stages in love and in our current society, the majority of couples fail to pass the third stage. Here are the five steps in love:
1. The passion:
I do not think this particular point needs much explanation because that’s what we all feel when we first meet a person who matches our ideal partner.
We have butterflies in the belly, we can not stop thinking about the person, we always want to see him/her and spend time with him/her. This is what all couples feel when they fall in love and start going out together.
2. The serious phase:
Once the new phase of the relationship is over, things become more intense and more serious. You can move in together, get married and try to have a baby, etc. At this point, you start to share everything, your families meet and you better understand where your partner comes from.
The dynamic of the relationship is more comprehensive since you are both settling into each other’s lives on a daily basis. Intimate relationships are very intense because you get a little closer each day; then you tend to be part of the habits of the other. Things are becoming more stable.
3. The confusion:
When the above occurs and you start spending more and more time together, the confusion phase gets closer, because let’s be honest: no one is perfect, neither you nor your partner, and as time goes by it becomes obvious to both of you. You realize that you do not like everything about him and that he too does not like everything about you. This sometimes leads to arguments and dissatisfaction.
You have the impression that he does not appreciate you enough and conversely. Things can really go wrong at this stage, we can also start to blame our partner.
4. The calmness:
After the phase of the confusion comes the calm phase, where one realizes that perfection is only a myth and that things are not always as one would like them to be.
In the calm phase, you realize that you really love yourself and you accept your partner as he is, no matter his faults, because, as mentioned above, perfection is only a myth.
5. The cooperation:
You now realize that you and your partner are two different people and learn to tame each other’s faults.
When you do this and find common ground that works really well for both of you, you are looking to do something to make the world a better place, to make a difference in this world.
And do not forget that every choice you make and every interaction you have with others helps the Universe lead you to the relationship of your dreams.