Here are 7 things every spiritual person must allow themselves to do, in order to reach their goal:
1. Doing what you want:
For whatever reason, we stick to the story that we always have to moderate our desires and we have to settle for less than what we really want. If you believe in an abundant universe, then you know that having what you want does not take away from others.
Anyone can choose to want what they want and do the work to create it – just like you. So how does holding back actually help you?
I personally believe that your vision, your dreams, your desires come from a place deeper than you. They come because the universe requires certain things to be manifest so that it can continue the process of evolution and guess who manifests – You do!
When you allow yourself to live the vision and dreams in your heart, it has an impact on the planet. So please stop holding back thinking that you are all spiritual and noble. It is spiritual to seek everything!
2. Changing your mind:
You can come to a place in life where the things you wanted, you no longer want. Let this happen. You change, you evolve, you want different things and that’s perfectly fine.
Stop clinging to the desires of the past thinking it is irresponsible to change your mind. Change your mind, change direction, let yourself grow and become more and more different.
You can try to stay for the sake of loyalty, stop it. You are only responsible for your own happiness and yes, some people may not be too happy if you upset the balance of their life as you change, but maybe they need a rework. They become responsible for their own reactions. Trust yourself enough to know when it’s time to change your mind.
3. Going against the crowd:
You are cut from a piece of different fabric and you know it! And yet there are times when you just want to be able to fit in with everyone. Well no. Stop trying. Allow yourself to be your unique self and face the crowd when you feel the call to do so.
Let your inner voice be more powerful than fear of what others will think of you. They don’t see the vision in your heart. Let your vision guide you. Don’t stop to look at what others are doing, just follow the intuitive boost while the Inner Spirit tries to lead you to the life you were born for, one of wholeness, happiness, abundance and much more.
4. Allowing yourself to cry:
I made an inner wish once to never cry again. I was an injured teenager and my father said words that opened my heart and I remember sitting in the bath promising not to let anyone hurt me that way again.
It just meant that I had bottled all of my emotions and lost touch with myself. I healed, I forgave and now I cry when I need to cry. You may think that you have to be stoic and keep everything in place all the time.
It’s good to express yourself. It’s okay to admit that you’re in pain, and it’s certainly okay, male or female, to let it all go. Okay, maybe choose your moment, but in the end, let yourself cry when you need to.
5. Having fun:
As adults, we forget to have fun. We think it’s childish and yet it’s a child who inherits the kingdom, the kingdom of a life fully lived.
Remember what it was like to laugh and not take everything seriously. Become that person again. Enjoy life again. Find pleasure and laughter even in the worst circumstances. Choose to have fun with your life.
And if life is really not fun, review your life and reinvent it! You are not created to survive for life. You can flourish, you can enjoy it. You can create fun experiences. It’s not frivolous to want to have fun. Pleasure brings out creativity. Pleasure brings out the best in you. Allow yourself to enjoy life again!
6. Saying no:
Saying “yes” all the time put me bankrupt! Yes, literally. I learn to say “no” a lot more after that. Consider your life, where do you keep saying yes? Even when you prefer to say “no”. Who do you think you should not continue to appease? Isn’t it a time when you took responsibility for your own happiness?
Be honest, some of the “yeses” you say make you resentful and nervous. So why keep saying “yes”? Say “no” more – You can always come back and say “yes” if you think about it better – After all, you now allow yourself to change your mind, right?
7. Hanging out with people who enliven you:
I know it sounds selfish, but really, you have a life and each person really needs to manage their energy. Yes, there are times when people are going through hard times and you can choose to support them through that, it is great! But that it is a choice made out of love rather than out of duty.
Never be fooled into thinking that you have no choice but to hang out with people who lower your energy levels. You always have a choice.
You may sometimes need the courage to walk away, but you have to understand that the life and the work that you are here to play on this planet are too important to be sacrificed to feel de-energized because of a duty that you feel towards somebody. Prioritize yourself!
I had to tell people directly that I could no longer be with them, sometimes people very close to me. Usually only for a season when I have gathered the strength to forgive and manage my inner world so that I was not permanently reacting to them. However, it does mean that my relationships are feeling much better than before.